shalamOM - 2007-05-20 12:26 PM
kulkarnn - 2007-05-20 12:07 PM
The irritations we have in others are merely relfections of ourselves and we often do not like the shadow-self that is unprocessed or unacknowledged.
This is sometimes true, but definitely not always. Some people are just more 'difficult' than others
(not directing this at anyone in particular here
). They rub people the wrong way, either with their comments or actions. These people might not even mean to have this effect on others, but due to poor interpersonal skills or personality disorders they can be offensive. When I come across somebody like this in my life I make a conscious decision to be polite and decent because I understand that getting 'irritated' is not worth it and won't change them. Inevitably, if I stay within that social organization I will find that many others have also experienced the same individual as 'difficult'. I am usually not the one to bring it up so as not to be seen as a 'gossip', but others will. This is evidence to me that the way I perceive their behavior is not due to a personal personality conflict, but rather it truly stems from them. Humor and understanding are the best tools when dealing with difficult people. It is also a good idea to spend as little time as possible with those people, but if that is unavoidable to just be polite and kind. However, it is still important not to reward their difficult behavior with undue respect. If you get upset then you risk losing your good reputation.
Respect question
